Accountability: How to Respond When Someone Avoids Responsibility

Still missing someone after a harmful relationship doesn't mean you got it wrong, and it doesn't mean the relationship was secretly fine. What's actually happening has a name, a trauma bond, and it forms in a relationship where the same person who caused the harm was also, sometimes, your source of comfort. That mix trains your nervous system to read closeness as safety, so when the relationship ends, your body doesn't relax, it panics, convinced something has gone badly wrong. Missing them isn'